I haven't figured this out yet . . .
Is anyone else uncomfortable with the idea that we have to get excited about other people’s children when we see them? Like if your friend has a new baby, you’re socially obligated to comment on how adorable their baby is. I’m very uncomfortable with this, and if you disagree with me, you should probably stop reading now.
Not all children are cute. I’m sorry, but it’s a fact of life. Hey, not all adults can be good looking. Ugly people have to come from somewhere. We all have our personal tastes in what’s attractive, and I don’t see how that doesn’t apply to baby cuteness. I’ve seen some babies that are quite unpleasant looking, but I’m sure other people genuinely thought those ugly babies were cute.
I’m not a tactless and insensitive human being. I don’t go around telling my friends or acquaintances that their babies aren’t cute. I just try to avoid saying anything. I’m putting myself in a bad spot right now because I have a few friends who read this blog and are expecting. Don’t worry, I’m sure your babies will be cute, but now that you know my ugly baby tell, I will have to lie to your face.
I don’t like being put in the position to lie to people’s faces about how cute their baby is because I do feel bad about it. But what am I supposed to do when the mother says out loud, “He/she is so cute! Isn’t he/she?” That’s when I hope that my wife, or someone else is in the room to agree with them so all I have to do is go, “mmm hmm.”
I never expected anyone to tell me my kids were cute. I still don’t expect it, except from family. You people are obligated. I think my kids are adorable, and I would be shocked if anyone disagreed with me. But I wouldn’t be offended. I’ll just think that person is crazy. Really, my kids can’t be cute to everyone so it’s unreasonable for me to expect that from other people.
If I do see a cute baby, I let mommy and daddy know right away, but I don’t like being forced into it. And you shouldn’t feel forced into telling people their children are cute, or adorable, or any other positive comment about their child’s physical appearance.